Tuesday, 4 November 2008

Dilemma

Well tomorrow 5th November 2008 at 11:30 am will be the day of Dads funeral.
As some of you know Dads trade at the pit (coal mine) was a blacksmith, he also enjoyed having a wee flutter on the horses.
We thought it would be fitting to have a horse drawn carriage hearse to take dad to church, now here is my dilemma, I would love to have a photograph of this as I think it should be remembered, I also think it will be quite beautiful, I'm not alone as my Mam and Brother both feel the same, would it be wrong to add it to my blog or would it upset anyone? I just don't know. All I know is I feel like I should preserve the memory.

59 comments:

Joy said...

That would be a lovely idea, a fitting tribute to your much loved Dad. I'm sure he would approve,

carolaman said...

I think it is a good idea. Although it is a sad occassion it can be looked back upon with pride knowing that the family gave your Dad a blooming good send off Jak. I will be thinking of you all tomorrow Jak and I am sure your Dad will be looking down on you all with pride at the send off you have given him, stay strong and think of all the good times chick xxxx

Anonymous said...

I think it would be a lovely tribute to your Dad. By the way I love the poem your Mam chose.

take care

Pam

Karen J said...

Go for it Jak ... we totally agree with you and your family on this, What a lovely tribute to your Dad, and such a fitting way to be taken on his last journey, and for you to remember this on your blog. Its your Dad, your blog and your memories. Jackie and Karen xxxx

Daisycat said...

This is your blog and you add what you want. I certainly will not be upset and I am sure that no one else will be upset. Hope everything goes okay tomorrow. Will be thinking of you.

Maureen said...

I think Dad would be proud of you You go for it Jak Remember your Dad as you want to and if that means sharing your wonderful memories of him that's the right thing to do

Anonymous said...

Whatever anyone else thinks Jak, at the end of the day its your dad - and your blog! Good luck for tommorrow, I will be thinking of you at 11.30. Viv xx

Anonymous said...

How could remembering your Dad on your own blog offend anyone, just do it for him.
Cassie x

iReneM said...

I really don't think it should upset anyone Jak.
IMHO it will be lovely for you to have a photo as a remembrance. You won't get a second chance but if you thought it inappropriate in the future you could do what you want with it. It will be something really special for future generations to look back on.
Your Dad would be proud that you have made a fitting farewell and I'd be proud to share your memories.
Hugs
Irene
x

Anonymous said...

go for it Jak im sure your dad would love it,its your blog, i think its a lovely idea.very fitting,my thoughts will be with you and your family. libby (js forum)

Jean said...

Of course you should. Tomorrow is your family's tribute to your dad and it is fitting that you share it with your friends.
You will all be in my thoughts tomorrow.

Helen said...

A photo would be great and I am sure your Dad would like that.
Go for it and I look forward to seeing it on your Blog
Hope tomorrow goes smoothly for you.

Helen
(Cyprus)

Budge said...

Jak you go for it I for one wont be offended it would be such a tribute to your Dad. And if all your family are behind you go for it.
Will be thinking of you all tomorrow.
sylv xx

carmel said...

jak
you do what you and your family feel is right, as for showing us, if someone does not want to look they dont have to.i have photos of my mums grave, and others in the family too, i like to look at them as i live too far away to go regularly.it may seem odd to some but in years to come your children and grandchlidren will be glad you have photos of that to see. all the best tommorrow, thinking of you all xx x
carmel

Lavender Rose said...

I personally think it is a wonderful idea Jak, a fitting tribute to your much loved dad. It's a shame you have to ask as it is your blog after all, thinking of you, Denise xxx

Victoria (imag-e-nation forum) said...

A very nice idea, it is your blog after all and if you feel it is right then do it.
My Nanna's funeral was nov 5th, 6 years ago now. we have photos of the floral tributes and of her gravestone. Also when all the fireworks were going of later on in the evening it felt like they were to mark her funeral and celebrate her not bonfire night.
all the best for tomorrow.

Jackie said...

It's your blog so go ahead and do what you want. I have photos of my mum and dad's grave after mum was buried with all the lovely flowers.

Hope the day goes well for you
Jackie

Norma said...

I think you should go for it Jak, after all he is your Dad and you should remember him in a way that you can look back on and remember.
its a wonderful tribute to him and i certainly would'nt be offended to see it on your blog
Hope everything goes well tomorrow, i willbe thinking of you all

Norma x

Ann Whitfield said...

I think you should go for it Jak. Speaking personally, I'd feel privileged to share in this wonderful tribute to your Dad. You're honouring a proud, loving, hard working man and there can't ever be anything offensive in that. I'll be thinking of you all tomorrow
Ann x

Louise Emma said...

It's YOUR blog hun and it is YOUR dad... that's all that matters. If you would like to do it and you think your dad would approve then do it. Trust your heart xx

Anonymous said...

I echo all that has been said Jak, it's your blog, and your lovely dad, you do as you want. I am sure your dad would approve and also be very proud of you. Will be thinking of you tomorrow morning.
Love
Sue x

Doris said...

I think it would be lovely for you to take a photo & to share it with us.
You are celebrating your fathers life not his death.
Will be thinking of you tomorrow.
Doris

Anonymous said...

what a beautiful and fitting tribute to a man who loved horses - thinking of you all tomorrow

xx

She Wray

Senorita Lynn said...

I can't think for one minute why you wouldn't want to treasure your Dad's memory by having a photo of his departure from this world on your blog. I think he would be delighted, and surely that is what is important...what you and your Dad would have wanted.
My thoughts will be with you tomorrow Jak.

Bev said...

Its a wonderful idea, we had horse and carriage for a aunt when she passed away. it was lovely and the horses looked amazing and so graceful. we all had photos to remember her by.
my thougths will be with you and your family tomorrow hun
xx

whoistracy said...

When my grandfather died a few years back, I wanted to take photos at the burial, but didn't. I regret it. He served in the military and the three-gun salute and flag ceremony is still burned into my mind. Just wish I had photos of it.

Anonymous said...

l'll be thinking of you tomorrow Jak......and it's only right your Dad should be on your blog he's a big part of your life and looked like a lovely man......luv Dimps xxx

Foxycrafts said...

I really feel that it is right and proper for you to take a photograph, Jak, and I'm sure that we would all love to see it. It is a very sad occasion, but also a very important one - and you will be able to look back at the photograph and remember that you gave your Dad the send off that he would have approved of.

I'll be thinking about all of you tomorrow, Jak. Hope that all goes well - I'm sure that it will.

Love Joan xx

Anonymous said...

it will be a most fitting tribute to your dearly loved dad and feel priveledged that you want to share it with us love andrea xx

Dawn Loring said...

I think it is a wonderful lasting memory of your Dad and his trade. The Horse Drawn Hearse's are fast disappearing, I know there only a few in the country and are in demand all over. You may even want to take photos for your own personal memory of the flowers .....do what YOU want not what you think others expect

Julie said...

Absolutely share the photos Jak xx

Anonymous said...

I think that would be a lovely thing to do. My thoughts will be with you and your family tomorrow. Love Catarina(imag-e-nation)

Liz C said...

A lovely idea, look forward to seeing the photographs

Deb said...

There is always someone wanting to tell you its not right but I think in grief anything should be allowed. we all deal with it differently and you want to take photos for the right reason so you go ahead and do it. Will be thinking of you xx

Pam said...

Jak....I too think it would be lovely and I also believe in years to come you will treasure it and it will comfort you!

I lost my beloved father back in 1991 in an automobile accident and I would dearly love to have something like that of him!!!

Bless you! Pam

rhomin said...

Jak I've not been online because of computer problems so just this minute heard your sad news. I'm so sorry. Your Dad had a wondeful smile, the photograph and prayer are just beautiful. I could just imagine him smiling at the horses, given they were such a big part of his life both in work and out of it. What a fitting way to carry him on his last journey. A photograph would be a real treasure for you all. It would probably be easier for a friend to take it than the direct family - just thinking on the practical side. It was lovely of you to share the photograph of your Dad so I personally think it would be a privilige to see one of his last journey. I will remember you all in my prayers tonight and tomorrow.
Rhonda

Anonymous said...

i couldnt think of a nicer way to commemorate your dads passing, and its whats fitting for you that matters, we come here everyday because we love who you are and love reading your blog and seeing what wonderful cards you make.

your dads passing has been felt by all of us. hope tomorrow brings love and peace.

tracie, worcs, uk

Karen B said...

Do it Jak, if anyone is upset by it they won't look. Think of you and the family at this sad time

Karen

Anonymous said...

Ja, thats alovely idea. After sharing the bookmark the photo would be a good addition. After all, most people here have been with you in spirit and would like to feel they been there for you on that painful day. You are still in our hearts, the family too, and its been a privelidge to be so.
Carole

MrsTina said...

it sure wouldn't upset me in any way! it is your blog and diary to do with how you see fit. I think it is rather beautiful to preserve his memory this way. we all want pics of babies when they are born why not when we leave, it will be so peaceful and beautiful. hoping you find comfort with your days ahead.
Tina C.

jules said...

Jak I think thats a lovely idea ,xxxx

Toni said...

I think thats a lovely memory for you and the family Jak and you should follow your feelings on this one There are always lost moments you will want to remember and this is one of them You and your family will be in my thoughts tomorrow
Toni xx

Margaret A said...

Well, I think you know by now that all of your friends agree....it sounds as though your Dad was a bit special and you and your family are doing him proud. Of course all of your friends want to join with you in remembering him.
Can't think why anybody wouldn't want to see a photo.
I'll be thinking of you in the morning.

Anonymous said...

I have to agree and say yes take the pictures and keep your dads memory alive ...he looks a very loving dad and hes special
Ill be thinking of you,your mam and family
Lizx xx

Barb said...

Your blog is for your expression, and I think it very kind of you to consider others' feelings. I would be honored to join in your tribute to your father by seeing the beautiful gesture of the horse drawn hearse.

Heather "Hev" said...

I think it is a beautiful way of remembering your Father - and if you want to do it then do it. Being able to give your Father a send off that highlights his life is a remarkable tribute.

Thinking of you all.

craftybee said...

Jak, I think it has all been said by other, but I for one will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow and look forward to seeing any photos on this your blog that you feel you want to share with us. God Bless.
Barbara

Pesdagal said...

A beautiful way to remember a beautiful person.
My thoughts are with you and your family today
God Bless you all
Helen x

Joyce said...

That's a lovely idea Jak. The poem brought a tear to my eye. Am thinking of you today.

Crafting Joanne said...

It's a lovely idea Jak. Only a few weeks ago I put a memoriam to my Dad on my blog to mark the 2 years since his passing. We also took some pictures at his funeral and these have been put into scrapbooks I have been working on for my mum, myself and brothers.
My thoughts are with you and your family today Jak xxx

Cazz said...

Jak - it is what YOU want to do to remember your dad that is important here so do what you think is right. Post the photograph xxx

Will be thinking of you today hun xxx

K39 said...

Think it's a lovely idea as a tribute to your dad and what he meant to you

Barbara H said...

I agree with all of the comments.It will give you comfort to know in the future that your dad was given such a lovely send off. As to whether you should put a photo on your blog, I think it would be an honour to share with you his last journey.

Christine said...

I think this is a lovely idea Jak,
A fitting tribute to what your Dad meant to you. I am thinking of you today and sharing in your sorrow.
Hugs to you and your family
Christine xxx

Sue at Stampndaly said...

Sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like you are creating a great tribute to him. I lost my Dad in April so you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Tonniece said...

I think it's a wonderful idea. It would be a lovely tribute to your father.

Chrissie said...

I feel honoured that you want to share your Dad's send off with us Jak, thank you. I think the horse drawn hearse and the photo is a lovely idea. Sending love and comforting wishes to you and your family for the days ahead.

Anonymous said...

I dont see why not Jak some people take pics of the flowers as long as you and your family are happy about it go for it. Hope it al went well today.
Myrax

Chris said...

That is a fine idea to memorialize your Dad. Hope it was a great but also difficult time as you say your goodbyes. My prayers are with you and your family.